“Change is viewed as loss followed by anger and pain”–Dr.Carl Menninger Here is how the story goes: Bill and Sue go to “Happy Big Box Church”.They have a growing hunger of intimacy with Jesus, they long for an activist community that reaches the lost with the Gospel. They look for authentic friendships with fellow travelers and have hopes of discipling and training others. Sadly, “Happy Big Box Church” does not address these desires even though the worship is inspiring, the preaching is content heavy and the special classes are many. “Happy Box Church”,(or HBBC), is an enigma to Bill and Sue.So much good stuff yet they feel so empty and so disconnected. Then, through a book, a conversation, an invitation, Bill and Sue stumble into a weekend Christian gathering in a living room. Here Bill and Sue find a voice.They are heard, valued. They interact and find their counsel and kindnesses make a difference. They start dreaming again about significance. The joy of gathering, the spark of fellowship and deep caring characterize their weekly interactions.Holy Spirit encounters startle them.Added to this are new connections for golf, poolside chatter, grilling after work and lots and lots of conversation and connection.A new world has dawned. Disciples doing life on life. Passion for Jesus reigning supreme. Loving the lost is penultimate. Loving the saints drives schedules. “Happy Big Box Church” is now in the rearview mirror. In the midst of all this joy a new anger emerges. “Why were we never told that this rich life was possible?”; “Why did no one model community?”; “Why did the small groups have little sense of Spirit-led participation?”; “Do they not have the same Bible?Do they not have the same Lord?” Resentment, disappointment and sadness for what appears to be abandonment of clear Biblical teaching on church life and life in the Spirit set in. But wait. It was that same system that nurtured us in its bosom. For some of us it was decades. Less, for many, is a stepping stone for more.Let’s take a deep breath and listen to this counsel from Glen Roachelle: ”So many times, we think we need to “adversarialize” the past in order to justify the new transition. Exit lines are just that. Recognize them; take them; move on in gratitude and faith. If you leave an Interstate, you donʼt have to first find fault with it in order to feel good about off-ramping onto HW 50. You just flip on the turning signal, move to the right lane and take the exit. I pray that God will grant you the grace to make graceful exits with gratitude for the past and maintain anticipation for the future.” Experiencing simple church is sweetest without reaction.Intimacy with Jesus and the Body of Christ is not built around the negative but around the positive.We draw andinfluence as we model, serve and live well. The greatest remedy for a disappointed heart is to find a new appointment. We set the wheels of change in motion as we embrace the new, make new pathways and invite others to this journey.